Spring began to whirl around love and settled dream dreams in the dreamy eyes of young men and women. And they feel for each other such an unbridled attraction that is characteristic only of him or her and no one else, because everyone has their own unique life. Love comes to someone once in a lifetime, and he carries it through his whole existence, someone is not destined to know this fabulous feeling of overflowing with happiness, someone falls in love many, many times …

Each lover, as a rule, accepts the object of his sympathy not as he is, but as he should be in his vision, and inconsistency with the created image can bring disappointment, make you start a new search for your ideal. Love is a combination of many emotional states in which there are feelings of passion, affection, attraction to intimacy, jealousy, fear, dizzying happiness … 

In a love relationship between girls and boys, everything is unique, everything is different – everyone loves and worries, maybe it seems, but still not like the other, due to personal characteristics. Communication with a person of the opposite sex in adolescence is a kind of self-affirmation, and tension in such relationships can increase due to a lack of knowledge and everyday experience. 

For high school students , it is not so much the real relationship between them that is important, but how the experiences themselves, and very often they take passion for love. With close communication, a quick break can occur due to the mismatch of the partner with the image created by the imagination of a lover. The previous hobby is replaced by a new sympathy, and a young man or girl can ask themselves the question: “And if this is not love?” 

Sometimes they idealize not a specific person, but love in general, creating something very difficult to achieve in the imagination. It would be nice for adults to explain to the younger generation that ideal people do not exist in nature, and we must get rid of the misconceptions that “only good people like”, “only good people fall in love”, and that “only opposites converge”. There are various well-aimed sayings on this score: “Love is evil …”, “Not nice for good, but good for good”, refuting naive aspirations – there can be very different options.  

How are relatives and friends able to help their children? Of course , with all kinds of explanations, using personal experience and general knowledge of behavior in love, in relationships, in understanding. And it is very important not to be late with them: children should be prepared for possible sexual intercourse, they need to know that the decision to have sexual intercourse is a test for maturity, and moral choice, and a great responsibility.   

Both the young man and the girl making this decision should be ready to answer for all the consequences themselves, because no one can guarantee security. They should know that early sexual life is often deprived of a deep mutual feeling, can lead to personal tragedy, a broken life. And if, moreover , this is not love? Some boys and girls do not even realize that sexual relationships without love are inferior. 

In many countries, from the age of twelve, classes have been taught in schools at which children are taught the culture and hygiene of sexual relations, the competent use of preservatives. It is necessary to raise children with open eyes, without departing from reality, because it is no secret that they are rather skeptical about the moral criteria of adults.

In adolescence, sexual desire is quite strong, and the desire to realize it is persistent, and children discuss the problems that arise, mainly with their peers, whose knowledge and affirmations are often cynical and confused. Children should hear from you, dear parents and teachers, that love combines the sensual and spiritual, that love is not only a need and desire for possession, but also a need for disinterestedness, in dissolving a lover in worries about a loved one. 

Once the Greeks called opposites – to take and give – the different poles of the same love feeling (love-eros and love-agape). Behavior in love must be learned, because often boys and girls do not even know the psychology of their loved ones, sometimes they make completely unfounded claims. It is necessary to teach children to understand issues of sexual relations, to know how to be with jealousy, how to behave, so that feelings intensify, so that attachment does not go away …   

You noticed that your girl tinted her lips with lipstick, and the boy preens for a long time in front of the mirror, and you were alarmed: “What if it is love?” And rightly so – do not miss the time, take care of your children, teach them everything useful and do not get tired of learning yourself.