Why don’t we talk about sex? Because you are not ready to listen to other people’s revelations? How many centuries will this topic be taboo? After all, we are already adults, we are going to Mars, we spent the Internet all over the world, taught the clock to be smart, when will we finally grow up to sex, huh? In order not just to silently perform a set of well-known movements, but also to talk about it. Not on talk shows for a certain number of bills, but at home, by the way.
And if you start with the unexpected fact: it turns out that most marriages break up because of defective sex. That’s all: he earns little, she does not pay due attention to children, she does not know how to cook borscht and pancakes with cottage cheese, like my mother, and in general, her cheesecakes are useless. All this set of imaginary reasons, which the humane judicial system for us brings under the conclusion “did not agree with the characters” – all this, it turns out, is a puny attempt to deceive. All this is just a cover. “Why is the judicial system here loyal and even more than that, humane to us?” – you suddenly ask yourself a question. Because she does not tolerate our main shame – sex – for public consideration .
Sex is one of the most important areas of our life. And if something does not add up in it, the person is unhappy. He may not like the way you give him a blow job, and he is unhappy. Or even worse: he may dream that you would give him at least some blowjob, but you do not understand his hints, or sharply refused, or said that you would try if he agreed to this, this and that, in a word, arranged for him everyday blackmail, which he cannot accept, even in the happy anticipation of a blowjob – and that’s it, he is unhappy. Yes, everything is very serious, and you dum ala. And we need to talk about this.
And just with the “talk” we have um … a snag. Recently I accidentally found the results of one sociological survey, where more than 50% of women admitted that they feel discomfort during sex. “Mammaia” – I thought and took hold of my head. And it was not the number of dissatisfied women that surprised me here. No, I gasped for another reason. More than 50% of women are ready to admit that they are hurt, unpleasant, rubbing somewhere, and somewhere you can take a little harder to strangers, confess in the mask of anonymous, but just not talk about it with your partner. This is terrifying!
We are going to Mars, but we have not learned to talk about sex
Why is it not customary for us to talk about sex? Why do we easily discuss our own and other people’s ailments, sometimes even sinking to such naturalistic details that we can take our heads? Why do we confess our feelings, even knowing in advance that they will not reciprocate to us, and we will not give it up? Why do we sometimes do not care what others think of us, so we boldly go out into the street in a ridiculous hat, call the taxi driver the name he deserves? Why are we so brave at the computer, driving and between kettles and pots and so cowardly in sex? And not just in sex (the realization of fantasies is another topic, now not about it), we are even ashamed to talk about it. Let’s return to our dissatisfied women who experience discomfort during intercourse. Did you know that a man gets the greatest pleasure when he sees that his partner is satisfied? Yes, yes, for women, it turns out that foreplay is important in sex, and for men – emotions and feelings of a partner. This is not something I just came up with in a hurry, sexologists are talking about it. And now we transfer our company of women with discomfort to the battlefield of men. Imagine if his main goal is to bring you to orgasm, and he does not achieve it (goal). Both are unhappy here: the woman, who is uncomfortable, and the man, who does not succeed in his main purpose in sex (at least, his main attitude). The saddest thing is that they are quietly unhappy! And how great it would be if they sat down and talked about it. Even if the situation had not been resolved, they would have known that they did everything they could, they just might have a sexual incompatibility. Why don’t we talk about sex? Because you are not ready to listen to other people’s revelations? How many centuries will this topic be taboo? After all, we are already adults, we are going to Mars, we spent the Internet all over the world, taught the clock to be smart, when will we finally grow up to sex, huh? In order not just to silently perform a set of well-known movements, but also to talk about it. Not on talk shows for a certain number of bills, but at home, by the way, like: dear, something you can’t gently take me from behind, let them leave this venture to them, I’m uncomfortable. After all, if we talked to each other about sex, we would find out: – What makes him / her uncomfortable. Yes, here it may turn out that he / she does not like the poses to which we are especially attached. He / she also suddenly confesses to sexual trauma, they say, she / he was bullied in childhood or the first experience was, to put it mildly, unsuccessful and still cannot get away from it. All this needs to be discussed, all this needs to be pronounced. Raise this topic to help each other. – So you can finally find out that twice a week is enough for him. “What does a man want?”, Writes an angry woman on a social network. – “He climbed in, stuck in, finished, stuck out and left, whistling.” Don’t you think that we are tied with stereotypes, like warm scarves in winter, and we ourselves do not want to get rid of them? For example, we decided that the penis of many men is constantly in an erect state, they are constantly thinking about sex, want it and are always ready. It is so? But no. A man in the same way may not want to make love now, as a woman. You don’t have to make a sex machine out of him without his consent. There are different situations and different moods – this also does not interfere with voicing, so as not to take offense at each other. – Finally, would dare to explore unknown areas. Not only could you finally admit that you especially like and what turns you on (so that, in the end, not with one G-point, you know), you could push off the boring shore and swim together to new horizons. For example, to realize your desires: first yours, and then his. 🙂 We need to learn to talk about sex with our partners. Not with a doctor, not with a psychologist, not with a social worker, but with that beloved bearded man who sometimes snores so sweetly next to him. We need one day to overcome ourselves and cross this line of shyness and notoriousness. It’s time, yes. It is time. So let’s talk, how do you love more? And when – in the morning or at night? Or maybe it’s better instead of breakfast? By the way, try it sometime.