The abundance of sex is its inflation, especially if it is separate from the senses. When it is made the main value of life, it depreciates, for, having gained everyday life, it loses its festivity. (Yu. Rurikov)
Motives of sexual behavior. How many of them? Is it only procreation and physiology in its pure form that makes a person enter into intimate relationships?
Once, researchers decided to classify all these motives. ABOUT! the eternal desire to reduce everything into tables, graphs and systems. Man is a multifaceted creature, complex and not studied at all. If anatomy is more or less understood, then in physiology and psychology of behavior there are a lot of white spots.
With animals it is clear – you need offspring, there is a biological task of reproduction, mating occurs. When March is in the yard, physiology wakes up. And the physiological craving for sensual pleasures is also inherent in man in full measure. More is more.
A classic of the genre is an attempt to overcome psychological loneliness , sex for the sake of finding your love. So time turned everything upside down. A century ago, everything was the other way around – at first they were looking for a couple, long and beautifully looked after. And only after marriage did they enter into an intimate relationship. For all the dubious result, marriages were strong and long. Divorces are extremely rare. The sexual correspondence of the spouses was not discussed.
Sex as self-affirmation . Many will be able to easily recognize themselves in this example. I’m damn attractive! Social self-esteem. As confirmation of this self – affirmation – hundreds and thousands of abandoned satellites, bedmates. Don Juan and nymphomaniac – from this list. A kind of compensation for the missing forms of activity. This motive for sex has many guises. The reason is one. A person wants to prove to the whole world (read – first of all, to his beloved) his own uniqueness and superiority. Sexual victories are more important for him than success in all other areas of activity.
Curiosity . This motive of sexual behavior is not unique to youths. And mature people are looking for adventures on the side. Sex as a knowledge of the world, as the disclosure of the philosophy of people. Deep and lengthy process, active analysis. Sometimes through sex a person cognizes himself, his own self.
Cold calculation . Mercantile motive. Achieving material benefits through sex. Cynical and insensitive. The same marriage of convenience. The same sexual relations with the sponsor, the boss, the person on whom the non-sexual goals depend.
Habit . Ritual conjugal duties. Sour or fresh. Without emotion or with a minus sign. It seems like sex, like it was called … Again, the ceilings are not whitewashed. And get up early tomorrow … and what does she / him always take apart? Mistress would have started …
The list goes on, describing the nuances and details. Each of these motives has a psychological, human nature. The nature of interpersonal relationships. To give an assessment is good or bad – it is unpromising. Every man is the master of his life, his sexual heritage.
The meaning of these reflections is not in a simple systematization of the motivational motives of sexual behavior. Man, you are a man! You know how to think, think, analyze. The right choice is the key to happiness in any business.
Dale Carnegie: