Sadly, women find it much more difficult to reach orgasm than men. Mother Nature has spoiled us in this regard. For the continuation of the human race in a female orgasm there is no urgent need, so we toil ourselves without an extravaganza of feelings. Of course, it’s convenient to take a cunning attitude and blame your partner for everything, declaring that he is just a bad lover. But in reality, the man is not always guilty of the fact that the lady did not reach the heights of bliss. So what are the most common reasons for the lack of female orgasm?
1. Sedentary lifestyle
We chained ourselves to the table: at school, at the institute, at work – for decades our body has been twisted, blood flow is disturbed, and this affects the physical well-being, affecting the intimate sphere. Prolonged sitting weakens the pelvic muscles, and it is they who play an important role in orgasm. Sex therapist Kat Van Kirk recommends setting an alarm every half hour to get up and warm up from time to time. It will also not be superfluous to do wumbling exercises and simply squeeze the vaginal muscles while you are sitting.
2. Too high heels
Most women abroad have given up wearing heels in everyday life. In some offices, protests were even held: employees demanded to cancel the dress code, according to which they were allowed to appear at work only in skirts and heels. Hollywood actresses boycott the rule of wearing high heels on the red carpet. But Slavic girls adore feminine style and gracefully flaunt in high heels even when they go to buy bread or take out the trash. Give up this harmful fashion trend and don’t wear heels all the time. They interfere with blood circulation and affect the ability to experience orgasm. Dr. Eden Fromberg argues that persistently tense leg muscles are one of the causes of orgasm problems.
3. Fear of talking to a partner
Many women are simply afraid to admit to partners that they do not have an orgasm. It seems that there is both love and passion, but the peak of pleasure cannot be achieved. For fear of being branded as frigid or for fear of losing a loved one, women are simply silent, not sharing their wishes with men. There are two factors that prevent orgasm: physical and psychological. In the first case, everything is clear, in the second, you destroy your emotional connection with your partner, misunderstanding grows, trust disappears. And voila – no orgasm. And all why? Too shy to talk about sex.
4. Dehydration
In the heat of hectic everyday life, we do not always have time to eat on time. What to eat there – sometimes you forget to drink! But it is so important to drink at least a couple of liters of water a day. Not coffee, not juice, not smoothies, but pure drinking water. Our body does not function well without water , metabolism goes badly and hormone production is disrupted. Well, what kind of orgasm can we talk about? The same doctor Fromberg explains that without water – nowhere . Especially if you are prone to drinking alcoholic beverages that pollute the body and impair its functionality. Water balance is extremely important.
5. Silence in a rag
Often, women deny themselves the pleasure of emitting a passionate moan in bed, shouting out the man’s name, remembering the Lord, and so on. However, sexologists argue that (by moaning and screaming) women help their bodies reach their peak. Of course, it is difficult to do this, we often give preference to quiet sex, because we live with children, parents or neighbors sleep behind a thin wall. How to be? Moan into your pillow!
6. Side effects of drugs
Of course, we have become much healthier than people who lived in the Middle Ages or at the dawn of time. Life expectancy has increased, before fatal pneumonia and tetanus are treated once or twice. Here’s just one problem: drugs have side effects. During the period of illness, our body is already weakened and not very ready for orgasm. Add chemistry here – and now it’s hard for us to experience pleasure. What to do? Strengthen your body, play sports and so on. Do your best to reduce the risk of having to take medication. And do not swallow pills for the slightest ailments. I have often noticed that my friends reach for the first aid kit every time they sneeze. Well, why so?
7. Lack of masturbation
Orgasm is a physical reaction of the body, and any physical reaction can become stronger with training and the development of conditioned reflexes. If there isn’t much sex in life, feel free to indulge yourself with masturbation. It is impossible for the body to forget how to end (sorry). If you have certain movements that bring you to orgasm, in bed with your partner ask the man to do this to you – a conditioned reflex will work. The body recognizes the stimulus leading to orgasm and it will be easier for you to achieve the desired effect with a man.
8. Low oxytocin levels
Oxytocin is one of the most important hormones in orgasm. It is also called the pleasure hormone and the love hormone. Remember the common postulate that sex is only for love? Of course, if you follow it, you can die an old maid, because love does not come to everyone. This does not mean that we cannot contribute to the production of oxytocin. By the way, scientists say that the love hormone is produced when we play with pets. So do not deny yourself the pleasure of watching fluffy pranksters. And most importantly, do not rush to immediately drag your unloved partner to bed. Kiss, hold hands. It helps, I checked! And the man is pleased, and the orgasm will sooner come.
Take care of your health: mental and physical. Do not forget how important it is to lead a healthy lifestyle and let there be a man in your life with whom intimate moments always give an extravaganza of feelings. Love each other and be happy!