“He does not speak to me, I write to him – he does not answer,” we often hear from women. They are confused. “Probably not interested”, “out of love”, “wants to leave” – such pictures are drawn by her imagination. In fact, everything is simpler: men and women are too different and have a different need for dialogue with the opposite sex.
If a man is closed, and his circle of communication is extremely narrow, then he will also look for an interlocutor in a woman. If a man is open and he wants to communicate, then he will prefer equal, on the same vision of things, male communication or communication with a neutral woman than a conversation with the one with whom he has a serious relationship (there was already plenty of deep communication, I want without psychoanalysis and immersion ).
How to overcome this gap? It is necessary to take into account the peculiarities of the male perception of the world. You can scatter in compliments, say the most incredible affectionate words to a man, and not realize the key to perception.
Such different languages of love
Men see life differently. It will not be possible to ignore this, because for one the word is important, for another – the image that you carry, and for the third only a touch is eloquent. This allows us to distinguish 3 main types.
Approach to visual men
If your man is visual , then he perceives the world through vision. It is easy to captivate him, but it will be more difficult to keep him.
The world is seen by him as a series of constantly changing pictures. And if someone’s storyboard seems brighter, then he can switch his attention to it.
How to focus the attention of the visual on yourself? Here are some keys to such a partner.
- For him, the grooming and showiness of the appearance of the chosen one is important.
- Beauty in everything and fashionable home interior.
- It is useful to keep a small distance. This will allow the visual to see you from the outside, again and again convinced of your attractiveness. This will encourage him to reduce the distance and to new, albeit conditional, victories over you.
The visual can be recognized by the following expressions: “I didn’t see / saw, I noticed, you see, it seems to me that it looks.” His speech is replete with evaluative words, its pace is higher than that of other types of men. Muscles of the body in good shape, gaze above the midline, uneven breathing, does he actively gesticulate? You have a visual .
not recommended to provoke the visual to jealousy by flirting with others. The visual ‘s eyes are a powerful tool; they remember what they saw for a long time and in detail.
It is important to keep your appearance under control: stop taking care of yourself – give the visual ground to search for other eye-warming spectacles.
When in a relationship with him, use his state words: “look”, “I see”, etc.
This will create an idea of a common vision of the world and strengthen relationships.
Approach to Audials
Perhaps no one else has such a high sensitivity to the word as the auditory . He is closest to the female, emotional perception of what was said. There is a high probability that he will hear exactly what the woman had in mind.
Sounds are a fine structure. As musicians, male auditory people are very sensitive, so loud speech and harsh phrases can strain them. For him, the willingness to listen and the ability to hear are important in a partner. Don’t interrupt him, watch what you say. Rudeness is unacceptable, like a burn, it will leave a mark on him for a long time and poison the relationship.
A man uses “sounding” words and expressions: “discuss”, “discuss”, “sounds”, “I heard in your words”, etc. This is audio . His eyes are at the level of the midline, he breathes with his chest, his muscle tone is lowered, his gestures are neat, within the belt. If you want the auditory person to perceive correctly what you want to tell him, do not write, say directly. Here they love with their ears – do not spare tender words.
Keys to kinesthetics : “To live is to
feel”
Smell good, feel good (skin, clothes) and taste are the criteria in which a kinesthetic man fits his woman . In it, a feeling of happiness is created by the closeness of the partner. Give tenderness with touches, do not skimp. Feelings are sought here. This is the primary love language for a kinesthetic person .
Comfort and convenience in everything – this requirement extends to the world, from clothes to a partner. Are you fragrant, pleasant to the touch, “comfortable”? Our kinesthetic is looking for you . It is from him that you will hear “emotional and bodily” phrases: “so nice”, “I can’t stand it”, “goosebumps” …
When you have a kinesthetic in front of you , you will not be tormented by the question of where his areas of hypersensitivity are. His whole body is an erogenous zone. Here they vividly respond to biting , tingling, stroking …
Kinesthetics do not like change, they are conservative. They won’t give compliments about changes in appearance: the kinestic just won’t notice them. As for the perfume, you will have to choose according to his taste.
How to pave the way to the heart of such a man? Confessions and gifts won’t help. Touch, hug and secure the victory with his own words “I hug”, “kiss”, “it was wonderful”.
Want to get kinesthetic to work? Precede the request with kindness.
Learn the language your man speaks and everyone will be happy.
Appeals as a litmus of relationships: affectionate words that a man will like
Another possibility for the manifestation of feelings is the nicknames that lovers give to each other. Psychologists say that they can determine how a person treats you.
You are such a beautiful animal
It is important to consider the nature of the animal. And no matter what animal they call you, patronizing notes sound here: tamed.
- “My Tiger”. A partner with this nickname emphasizes your dominant role and sharp attractiveness. And she had the role of a tamer in this game.
- If you are called “bunny” and “cat”, then this indicates that your partner is calm with you. You give him a sense of security and confidence. There is a warm, easy relationship between you.
- “My kitten” means that you evoke tenderness and a desire to take care of.
- “Kisa” is a marker of a bright attraction to a partner.
- “Chicken” emphasizes your (as the partner sees it) defenselessness, touchingness and the desire to protect you.
Tall, book appeals
Are you “my life”, “my love”? They are recklessly in love with you and fall asleep with tender words. This is what happens at the beginning of a relationship. Your partner is an exalted and passionate person. She seeks in you the embodiment of a dream and attributes to you qualities that you may not have. But “blessed are those who believe.” Sometimes, if a woman is prosaic, mercantile and knows the price of everything, this will speak of the insincerity of feelings, the desire to impress. It all depends on the personality of the speaker.
Those tender, gentle nicknames
“Beloved”, “sweet”, “dear”, my good. It is believed that these words suffer from formalism and banality, and indicate the same attitude towards you (if the partner says this all the time). These words are just used to express tender feelings. Take a closer look at a woman, and you will understand: she is playing or expressing a genuine feeling.
By last name or patronymic
Such an appeal is a sign that the partner is trying to pull away. Relations are not so much close as official. There is no spiritual closeness of partners here – there is respect.
When a spouse calls you by your first name and patronymic in front of others, she seeks to emphasize your social status and indicates that she is proud of you.
Sun
The sun will tell about the tenderness directed at you, the desire to please and the insecurity of your partner that you are completely hers.
Made up nicknames
Funny, weird or stupid… They often reflect our history and personality: Tsunami, Everest, Nautilus, etc. These appeals will tell about the sincere feeling of your partner. And also that he likes everything about you, even flaws.
Handsome, my angel
These appeals will emphasize that your spectacular appearance is especially important in you for your partner and hint about the frivolity of intentions.
Gastronomic tenderness
“My sweet”, “hot” – an indication of sensual attraction and flirting. They see you as an object of passion.
Daddy
This story is about the infantilism of a woman, about the search for patronage, about manipulation, about feeding the male ego.
call me by my name
The most poignant word on earth is the sound of your name. Intonation will tell you how a person treats you. If the name is pronounced often and enthusiastically, you are adored.
“Speak, speak, speak of love”
Haven’t you said nice words to your beloved, to your man warm words today? Hurry up!
Scientists say that couples with rich emotional lives and deep affection tend to come up with a lot of appeals for each other.
Live brightly, support the fire of feelings: speak tender, affectionate words to each other!