It happens that from the touch of a person goosebumps run on my skin … Looking at him, I want to dissolve in his arms, kiss him, possess him, play with him … And someone, seemingly outwardly and attractive, does not cause such emotions , does not excite blood and does not disturb crazy thoughts.
Why it happens? Something tricky here, at a subconscious level. Pheromones, smells, chemistry of feelings … Yes, everything is not as simple as we would like. But a lot easier than it sounds.
The point here is energy, yes, the energy of attraction. In emancipation, in the ability to surrender to the senses. Love and sex are two completely different things. And very rarely, unfortunately, they are combined. Because in passion, in sex, there should be practically no “brakes”, prohibitions, or stiffness. That is why some men say: “A wife is sacred” or “Well, I can’t afford everything I want with my wife.”
Why?! – the question begs here. Wife, what – not a woman, maybe she is no longer a man, but some kind of addition to the house? Like a vacuum cleaner or a dishwasher. There is, okay, it fulfills its functions well, but here you don’t want it anymore, okay, you can go left.
“A good leftist strengthens marriage” – this phrase is also often heard from the lips of men. I have no right to judge anyone here, but going to the left turns into dependence and does not lead to anything good. Isn’t it better to try to diversify your sex life with your loved one?
We must forget about the stamp in the passport and rush headlong into the ocean of passion. There are some rules in this ocean, because it is an element, therefore it needs:
Surrender whole!
It is a pity that you can not click on the button and turn off the sober mind for some time. When we surrender to someone, we don’t have to think about our own, about problems or unpaid bills, that you are unshaven somewhere, and somewhere ugly, somewhere wrinkled, and somewhere dimpled, to hell all! Indulge in sex without brakes, surrender completely! Merge with desire, be desire! This is a kind of game, artistry, this is a time when two people do not need to be afraid to open up, to surrender. This is the time to take and give. Without complexes, prohibitions and fears. Two naked people, revealing to each other their world, what could be more intimate? What is there to be ashamed of ?! Who ?!
Do not be clamped!
Here, the ability to relax, to engage only in this process and enjoy every moment of it is important. If you enter into intimacy with this person – this is your choice, which means that the person is pleasant to you. You want it, you want to possess it. So show it to him! Let him or her feel your desire, your attraction. Pass on your mood, light up! Light it with your fire.
There is no need to be afraid to let in the energy of passion and surrender to it, because this is just an instant, and it should be wonderful. Play it! You are like beautiful predatory animals, hunters, sniff at each other, find paths to each other. Walk carefully on soft paws, so independent and strong, look for prey … And now the choice is made, you overtook the one you wanted, and now he (she) is in your paws (hands). Triumph, celebrate, possess! You can even growl and bite. There are no bans. Your prey.
Act!
To give pleasure to a loved one is, of course , good, but one should not forget about oneself. Take yours! Do not be afraid to declare your desires, direct the flow in the direction you need. Do not be a log, but do not let your partner be.
If you want some action from him (her), say so, ask. Each of us likes certain caresses: someone “floats away” when he (she) is kissed and / or bites an ear, someone melts from touching his tummy and so on … After all, each person is individual and has his own “special” places on the body and fantasies in the head.
Sex is diverse as the world … Unpredictable, fantastic. Do not turn it into a routine, into “conjugal duty.” Know how to play and enjoy this game!
And remember, sex is not dirty if the desires of two coincide; it’s much dirtier to have sex without love.