Spicy anal sex scares newcomers, who (in addition to the opinion of moralists) are also pressured by fears of pain and consequences. How to avoid trouble? To do this, you need to follow the simple rules of safe sex.
Although it seems that blowjob remains the main fixed idea for men, in fact, their interest in anal sex is no less. This is clearly shown in research conducted by the site PornHub once , according to which “anal sex” is the most frequently entered query. Forgive me believers for such a comparison, but for many, anal sex is the Holy Grail in the world of pleasure. Many are eager to get it, but are often left out of work. And the more difficult it is to get anal from a friend , the more attractive this idea is for a man, because the effect of the “forbidden fruit” is triggered.
And why do girls so often refuse guys, not wanting to satisfy such a dream? At the same time, even those ladies who the very thought of such sex turns on in bed can refuse. The guilt is partly in the actions of the guys themselves, without asking where they were not invited, partly in the feigned modesty of lovely ladies, and partly in the fact that both partners are new to this business and do not really know about the rules for preparing for anal sex . Let’s study these rules.
1. Get the opinion of a physician
It is very sad that many women are simply embarrassed to talk with doctors about different types of sex. Don’t be afraid of being judged. Yes, there are inadequate doctors who belittle their patients by reading inappropriate morality. Such would-be doctors need to be done with a handle, slamming the door, in order to then find a normal doctor living in the 21st century. Check with your doctor. Make sure you have no contraindications for anal sex.
2. Get down to business only with mutual agreement
Dear men, questions for you. Have you ever been impaled? Would you like to be impaled? But it is precisely with such inhuman torture that anal sex is associated, when a guy, without warning and without asking permission, tries to insert a penis into the anus of a virgin young lady in terms of anal sex . And if even without lubrication, then generally horror. A couple of these men’s freaks – and you’re gone. Such a blatant tactlessness will cause a woman’s persistent aversion to anal sex and inevitable associations with unbearable pain.
Even if the lady herself came to you in the middle of the night at the first acquaintance, agreed to vaginal and oral sex, this does not mean that she automatically gave consent to anal sex . Even if you have been together for decades, sex should only take place with the mutual consent of partners , otherwise you are raping your partner. Ask, get permission, discuss the process and preparation, and only THEN get down to business.
3. Prepare in advance
Anal sex requires careful preparation: first, the ass is trained, for example, with the help of fingering and small sex toys (most often plugs are used – butt plugs). It is important to remember to apply a special anal lubricant , because without lubrication, penetration into the anus can cause pain. And even if the pain with strong arousal is imperceptible, unpleasant sensations in the rubbed anus may appear in the morning. When the anus is developed (and this will take more than one day), you can proceed with the delicate penetration of the penis. Little by little, entering the woman a little and watching her reactions. Remember, although we are inspired by porn, life is not a staged movie. It is not necessary to enter the very base of the penis from the very first visit.
4. Remember that cleanliness is the key to health
There are situations when girls refuse anal sex not because they do not want it, but because they are ashamed of possible faecal stains. In the TV series “Sex Education” , a wise phrase was said: “If you are not ready to discuss an anal enema with your partner, then you are not ready to have anal with that partner.”
If you are not ready to discuss an anal enema with your partner, then you are not ready for anal sex with this partner.
Do not be shy. Men are not idiots and they perfectly understand what kind of unappetizing “treasures” can be in an appetizing ass. But at the same time, women are not typical for men, a thirst for cleanliness and scrupulousness in matters of aesthetic sex. Just be clear that you need advance notice of your anal plans so you can have an anal shower ahead of time.
Remember that during anal sex, E. coli can get on the penis, fingers, and sex toys. Escherichia coli introduced into the urethra can provoke inflammation of the bladder. Wash everything that touches your anus, use a condom, and do not have oral or vaginal sex until you shower.
5. Choose comfortable poses
All penises and vaginas are unique, and therefore it is a thankless task to fit all pairs to the same size and advise one particular position. Explore options for positions for anal sex, choosing what brings pleasure to both of you. For those who like to figure things out on their own at first (not relying blindly on an inept partner), we can advise you to start with anal masturbation.