Although the world of sex is infinitely wide and varied, nothing resonates and is diametrically opposed to most people like BDSM. For some, this is almost a way of life, while others are afraid of one such abbreviation as the impure devil of incense and believe that fans of such relationships are not all right with their psyche.

In fact, BDSM is not only a huge layer in intimate relationships, but also a whole culture. And what some people or neophytes see from the outside is just the tip of the iceberg, which is the product of wrong stereotypes and prejudices. That is why we consider it our sacred duty to tell you more about this subculture, to present everything in the right light, and if we are lucky, to sow the seed of desire to try such sex games at least once. After all, you cannot form an objective opinion about what you don’t know or what you haven’t tried. Moreover, who knows, maybe in this you will find yourself in sex?
 

What is BDSM and what is it “eaten” with?

1. The basis of the basics 

Role-playing games of this kind imply 2 main principles – power and obedience, without which they cannot take place a priori. This is the whole point. Accordingly, one of the partners is the master ( dominant ), and the other is the subordinate ( sub ). Who and who to be is up to everyone, taking into account the opinion of the partner. It depends on preferences, erotic fantasies, or the desire to try on one or another role. 

2. We decipher the abbreviation 

Let’s deal with these intriguing letters. Database means bondage and dominance, or full or partial immobilization of the lower partner in order to be able to perform the SM (sado Mazo ). In other words, one can enjoy the implementation of all kinds of punishments, while the other gets a thrill from the fact that he “fell out of favor.” Moreover, it can be both moral and physical humiliation.

3. The importance of trust and security 

In fact, BDSM has nothing to do with violence in a certain sense of the word and everything happens entirely voluntarily. And about how to somehow injure or cripple the lower partner is out of the question! Partners initially agree on how far the games can go, what actions are categorically unacceptable, and even write a script.
We hope we were able to calm you down a little and lift the veil of mystery, from which we can go further.

Where to begin?

If you have decided to enter the world of role-playing games, but are absolute beginners in this and do not know which side to approach, we will give some simple but useful tips.
Step 1
First of all, you need to start with the desire and understanding that this experiment can be one of the brightest and most delightful in your sex life. Moreover, evidence of this is the millions of happy people around the world, among whom you may be.
Step 2
Choose roles for yourself – who is on top and who is below.
Step 3
Share your fantasy games with each other. We will not be mistaken if we say with complete confidence that everyone has their own secret desires.
Step 4
Be sure to come up with stop words or stop gestures. This is imperative. They are designed so that the lower partner (if the game has exceeded the permissible boundaries and instead of pleasure he gets pain), can inform the upper partner about this and stop the game. With words, everything is clear, the main thing is not to come up with difficult to pronounce or make up long phrases. “Watermelon”, “Airplane”, “Old Cat” and the like would be ideal. Stop gestures can be shaking your head or hitting your hand three times on the floor or bed.
Attention! Always watch your partner’s reactions. Sexual arousal may muffle his assessment of pain, or the pain may be so violent that the partner will not have the strength to give a stop signal. Be attentive to each other! Step 5 And the fun part. Visit a sex shop and get the right merchandise for everyone! 

We create the necessary atmosphere

Just as theater begins with a hanger, so BDSM begins with creating the necessary surroundings and purchasing special accessories. Of course, someone wants to save money and instead of professional shackles, use a cut-off clothesline or replace the whip with a broom, but this will be extremely wrong. It is not necessary to purchase expensive clothes or devices at the very beginning. The main thing is that these are professional items, which means they are safe. And security, as mentioned above, is one of the main components in this matter. And so that we need.

1. Clothes 

First of all, role-playing costumes are needed, and not necessarily made of leather and with frightening spikes. These can be garters , harnesses , or just a maid outfit. However, at the same time, they should be selected taking into account that it would be immediately clear who is the master and who is his servant.

It will also be useful to take care of suitable shoes.

2. Collar 

BDSM adherents pay special attention to a collar or choker, and putting it on (and especially the first one) is considered almost a sacred rite. Thus, the dedication of the lower one into his role is performed, and from that moment the relationship between the servant and the master begins. Further, this accessory serves as a symbol of submission, and each time it is worn, it evokes the corresponding associations about its “humiliating” position. Some wear an eye-catching choker even down the street, while simultaneously immersing themselves more and more in their role. Some models include a leash attachment.

3. Masks 

Another interesting but unnecessary attribute. They can cover their eyes or even their entire face like a cover. Some are designed for dominants and look intimidating, while others are needed for lower ones, limiting their senses. This leads to the fact that (without seeing his master) the slave becomes more frightened, and the sensations from each touch are exacerbated. Visual deprivation enhances sexual sensibility, allowing for a brighter orgasm. 

4. Gags 

An accessory in order to close someone’s mouth in the literal sense of the word. They come in the form of a ball, stick, leather tape, or spacer. Beginners are advised to purchase these made of rubber or silicone. They are relatively soft and you do not risk damaging your teeth.

5. Subjects for punishment 

There really is a place to roam fantasy, because the choice is huge! First of all, you should know that each such device has its own characteristics. A flogger with a multi-strand tail has the most delicate effect and is ideal for beginners. A whip or a whip is the exact opposite. Their attacks are very scathing and painful, and they can not be applied for sexually organamili face. A stack or paddle is designed to deliver targeted sensory hits to the thighs and buttocks.

6. Shackles 

It can be either classic handcuffs or shackles or Shibari rope . To begin with, we advise you to pay attention to handcuffs with a soft pad or leather. This will prevent damage to the skin on your wrists and cause unnecessary pain. And how to fix your partner is already a matter of your imagination.

7. Accessories 

Exotic lovers can pay attention to chastity belts, scrotum clamps, or nipple clamps. The latter can be a real decoration and can be worn not only during BDSM sessions.

From theory to action!

Toys and costumes have been bought, roles have been assigned, a script has been written. Full speed ahead! But let’s not be fanatic. Start small. You don’t come to the gym and on the first day you put 100 kg on the barbell, which if you lift it, then a couple of times, you will overexert yourself and no longer want to go to workouts. Therefore, remember the basic rules of BDSM, which apply to beginners and not only.
1. Be attentive Listen to your partner. At first, try to ask the lower one as often as possible if everything is in order. 2. Be honest After each BDSM session, be sure to share your impressions and realizations. This will make the following games even more interesting, exciting, and, of course, enjoyable. 3. Experiment This can be done with imagery, scenarios, punishment intensity, or bondage positions. Build up your pace gradually. 4. Play Try to switch roles. Many couples do just that. 5. Communicate with like-minded people This can be done both in person and in thematic forums or through books. This is very important as it will help you avoid many mistakes or learn interesting ideas. 6. Safe sex – good sex Remember safety and take care of your partner. 

 

 

 

 

 

7. Go to the sex shop more often 

There are tons of interesting accessories that can inspire new scenarios.
Well, now good luck! We gave you the main parting words and hope that we have inspired you to let BDSM into your intimate life, which will definitely only benefit from this. And we wish your journey into the world of role-playing games to be fun, exciting, joyful, and, of course, immerse you in an endless sea of ​​pleasure!