For many women, anal sex is terrifying. Some are considering whether to agree to it for the sake of the man and whether the man is worth such sacrifices. It is difficult for them to believe that there are girls who practice “this” solely for their pleasure.
Anal sex requires a special approach. Unlike genital, it cannot be realized on instincts alone – it is an art that requires skills, attention, and talent.
No wonder almost all existing sex trainings and courses study anal sex as a separate topic. The trainings are devoted to how to make your first anal experience painless (although some girls are particularly pleased with just a little pain, as if reminiscent of defloration – and there are special techniques that allow you to keep it at the right, pleasant level). In addition, the trainings talk about what poses, techniques and gadgets can be used for training and in the process, what hygiene standards to follow … We will not retell the contents of these courses and take bread from sex coaches: this is not ours task. About the pleasure of men we also will not argue – this is another topic. We now need to understand why a woman should agree to anal sex and whether the “victim” will be justified.
Where does the pain come from
Anus is set by nature to exit, not enter. The function of the rectum is the excretion of metabolic products from the body. As soon as you try to go “against the tide” and introduce a foreign object (penis, finger, sex toy, at least even an enema or therapeutic candle), the sphincter contracts.
An attempt to continue the movement and overcome this compression causes an even greater spasm, friction intensifies – hence the pain. Moreover, if you act aggressively and assertively, you will fall into a vicious circle of pain: the more persistent the attempt to introduce, the stronger the resistance and the stronger the pain. In this struggle , even injuries and cracks in the anus are possible , which opponents of “Sodom pleasures” so much like to remind. If a woman is not inclined to anal sex morally and physically, then trying is completely hopeless. The main thing here is to be able to relax. First of all, of course, psychologically: tune in to sex, expect pleasure from it, and patience and affection from your man. Lubricants for anal sex will help physically prepare (they are usually thicker, and therefore minimize the friction factor, which causes pain), as well as special sex toys: anal chains with an increasing diameter of the beads. You can relax the sphincter with a vibrator that does not need to be inserted inside: they should stimulate the area of the anus from the outside. It is possible and in the order of foreplay before ordinary sex. Such games will allow the girl to understand that touching the anus and even stimulating it can be very pleasant.
Where does the pleasure come from
The mucous membrane of the anus is saturated with sensitive receptors, very similar to the Krause cones, which are full on the clitoris and on the eve of the woman’s vagina, as well as on the man’s penis. Therefore, stimulation of the anus causes the same quick and strong sexual arousal as stimulation of these well-known erogenous zones.
In utero, both the vagina and the anus develop from the same proto-formation, therefore the structure of the wall, mucous membrane, and receptors are almost identical. So the warning stories that there are no receptors responsible for orgasm in the rectum are at least unreliable. The concentration of receptors in the anus is 1.5 times higher than in the vagina. The girth of the penis by the sphincter is two times stronger than the vaginal – as a result, the flow of bioelectrical impulses from the anus to the brain gets faster. From which it follows that an orgasm during anal sex is achieved by a woman faster and acts on her brighter than the vaginal. With anal penetration, the member begins to touch the back wall of the vagina. This means that it stimulates zone K, which is difficult to get close with during normal vaginal sex. But that is not all! The “P” zone (POSTERIOR – “back”) is located approximately in the same place – this is a bunch of nerve endings that are responsible for orgasm during anal sex. In many women, zone P is more developed than point G. Moreover, the shape of the vagina may be such that during normal sexual intercourse, point P is not stimulated at all: classic frictions of a man are aimed deep into the vagina, and not sideways. Stimulation of zone P in a woman occurs only during anal sex. Paradoxically, many women get their first vaginal orgasm precisely during anal sex.