Buying your first sex toy is often questionable. Why do you need a phallus in the bedroom if there is no problem with sex? How does the purchase of such an item affect the relationship? Is there a risk of being disappointed in an intimate object or offending a partner using it? We’ve identified the pros and cons of having a dildo in the family bedroom.

Cons of buying a dildo

According to statistics, buying any sex toys increases the amount of sex in a couple. But there are not only positive aspects, but also negative ones:

• Jealousy of a man. When the first sex toy is the phallus, he can get jealous. And if the dildo is also larger, then this is a reason for conflict. Some men are not ready to compete in their own bedroom, and with them you need to choose devices that do not resemble genitals. 
• Inconvenience of use. Every sex toy has to be adjusted and it doesn’t always work the first time. This is especially difficult in pairs, when it is important to find the right angles of penetration so that all participants in the process are comfortable. Finding solutions does not take much time, but it is important to understand that delight does not always come instantly. 
• Wrong size. The first sex toy is taken “by eye”, not understanding what exactly is needed. But not every woman can take 20 cm inside, although she really wants to. And sometimes it turns out that the device is too large or too small, and this is inconvenient. Only with experience can you understand which phallus is best suited. 
• Poor quality. If the toy was bought in the wrong place, then it may have a terrible smell. Low-quality things are not very pleasant to the touch, irritate with the scent of rubber. It is important to choose only safe and dignified intimate products that ensure safety. 
• May not be exciting. A sex toy is not a man, he cannot hug, kiss. He does not whisper compliments in his ear, he is always silent. Human communication causes more emotions, and without it it can be boring. To use the phallus, you need some kind of exciting stimuli: porn, another person, fantasies. For many, this is just an inanimate object that will never replace a man. 

The disadvantages are very conditional, the dildo does not spoil the relationship, but only complements them. But it is important to choose quality items of a suitable size so that everything is pleasant. And also do not forget that you need a lubricant for use. A water-based lubricant is ideal to improve glide.