You think you’re a walking sex bomb. With the diligence of an excellent student, you follow all the advice of sexologists and other gurus. You have embodied all the sexual desires of men that you read about in glossy magazines. I memorized “Kamasutra” and reviewed “50 shades of gray” 50 times. And what is he? He doesn’t want you! Doesn’t throw you on a love bed, doesn’t rip your clothes off. There is definitely something wrong with him. Or did you overdo it with seduction. What mistakes do most women make when killing sexual desire in men?
1. Attack of erotic images
Surely your boyfriend begged you for a spicy photo at the beginning of your relationship? That was in the beginning. Now he already knows your body inside and out. Yes, he is pleased sometimes to get a picture of you in a seductive pose, in his shirt, slightly opening the shoulder. This does not mean that you need to spam his phone and mail, distracting him in the middle of the working day. Don’t be vulgar, don’t need those creepy close-ups of the genitals. An overabundance of photos in underwear also does not make men want. Temptation should tease, give room for imagination, prepare for sex, and not become a hateful routine. How many erotic pictures does he have? If there are dozens of them, then you overdid it. Everything is good in moderation – this is the main postulate applicable to any area of life. Love and sex are no exception. Another mistake is that girls often send professionally taken pictures. And then the guy has a reasonable question: “My dear, who was it who photographed you in such a position and even with or without panties?” Such pictures do not evoke passion, but jealousy, anger and resentment.
2. Too much makeup
Men are not good at cosmetics. On the one hand, this is good for us, and anyone can turn from a dummy into a beauty, fooling an unintentional boy with a fake beauty. This is what we see with extended eyelashes, eyebrow tattooing, visually enlarged lips, and so on. Yes, there are experienced men who can distinguish war paint from natural facial features. Whatever type your chosen one is, stop smearing yourself with tons of makeup. Prosechet experienced guy once you durish it and think: “If she repainted, then a thick layer of Tonalka hiding mymra”. And that’s all, write it was gone. And what about the inexperienced? Yes, he’ll take the hook. You will start dating, but one day he will see you without makeup and … disappear from sight. Not because you are scary, but because he loved a completely different person and now he feels cheated. Makeup should be appropriate. No need to plaster all day, doing aggressive makeup for work and dates.
3. Sharp claws, sharp teeth
In romantic films, in erotica and porn, we often see a lady sinking her claws into the back of her partner, and he is all mellow, remembers the Lord and announces the area with groans: “Oh yes, baby … More!” Reality is different from cinema. These fictional characters are thrilled with fake scratches on the back, skillfully injected by the make-up artist. A real man doesn’t want you to tear him to shreds like a maddened werewolf. By driving your claws into a guy’s body during sex, you’re not just hurting him. From surprise, he goes out of rhythm and his whole brain switches to wounds, and not to thoughts about him and your orgasm. Nails should be gently passed along the back, as if scratching – this is really pleasant and turns men on. Don’t leave him scars about yourself. You shouldn’t bite into a man’s body either.
4. Simulated orgasm
I had one case that was funny and sad at the same time. I started dating a nice guy and it came to the first sex. We approached each other like a key to a lock: the size of his dignity was perfect, I myself set the pace, and then the desired orgasm came. Suddenly, I moaned, arched, trembling went through my body, my muscles began to contract. Bliss! But the guy goggled and jumped to the side. “What happened to you?! – he cried heart-rendingly, – Call a doctor? I was surprised to answer that I had an orgasm, sincerely not understanding such a reaction. Then the guy’s face stretched out: “Is this … Is this an orgasm? Is he really like that? What a bitch ! ” Until the morning, he resentfully smoked in the kitchen, cursing all the exes who (as it turned out) imitated orgasms with him in bed.
His lover is excellent, the guy quickly learned new things and sincerely wanted to please. But all his exes were so afraid of offending him that they lied endlessly, depriving both themselves (and him) of true pleasure. Many years have passed since then, we occasionally correspond with him and recently he admitted that now he immediately leaves the girl if he sees that she imitates an orgasm. After reading a lot of literature, he learned to discern all sorts of nuances of a real orgasm, and now even the Oscar winner will not be able to spend it. You can’t betray a man’s trust by fooling him. If there is no orgasm, you should tactfully suggest changing the pace or posture. Otherwise, he just won’t want to have sex with you.
5. The green serpent is not a tempting serpent
Ever notice how miserable are the advertisements for strong alcoholic drinks? There, by all means, a handsome man in a luxurious suit is surrounded by sexy ladies who are simply exhausted from desire. These ads create the false message “alcohol = sex”. The image of wine and champagne on a romantic date also distorts our ideas about eroticism, and now the ladies are reaching for a glass. Someone wants to seem sexy, someone just wants to drown out complexes with drinking. Normal men don’t like this. Only a drunken drunk will be delighted with the fact that a friend leans on drink every day. The smell from the mouth and the cheeky behavior of a lady under a shaf completely kills sexual desire.
6. Zakos for a fool
Of course, it is pleasant for a man to feel smart and experienced, but this does not mean that he wants to date an idiot. Of course, there are individuals with “cockroaches” in their heads who are uncomfortable in the society of erudite and educated women. This is the worst kind of men for relationships, we’re talking about normal guys. Stop making a dull expression on your face, always taking pictures with the ” duck “, do not slow down in conversations on serious topics, giggling silly and often flapping your eyelashes. The fool may seem pretty for the first couple of minutes, but there is nothing erotic about her.
7. Scheduled sex
The seventh point, unfortunately, becomes a problem for many ladies. We are busy, we have crazy work schedules and somehow we have to fit sex into them. In addition, a woman needs time to prepare for sex: you need to paint over the roots, do an intimate hairdo, shave, pluck eyebrows, do a manicure-pedicure, and so on. As a result, we find ourselves dependent on the schedule. Men don’t like planning sex forever. Inviting a friend to him, he does not even realize that she is wearing oversized cotton panties , and bristles under her armpits. And here is the girl dynamite the guy, transferring sex to another time. And he doesn’t want to plan, he wants now. And you want it now, but the coward and the bristle (so it) are forced to create a schedule. Because of such schedules, I lost my crowd of suitors. You rescheduled the meeting, the second, the third – and the guy decides that you don’t want him.
How to be always ready for spontaneous sex? Once upon a time, my business friend shared her secret. In her cosmetic bag there are always fishnet panties and a razor. Arriving at a man, she simply goes to the shower for 10 minutes, where she manages to quickly put herself in order. I followed her advice and my sex life became much better!
Of course, every man is unique and it is impossible to deduce 100% valid rules for all guys. How to avoid mistakes in a relationship with a loved one? Just ask him what he likes! And if you feel that he is embarrassed to answer honestly, take a closer look at him, noting his preferences.