How ambiguous, exciting can be perceived such a simple, pleasant and safe (in comparison, for example, with classical contact) sexual practice, like rimming, or stimulation of the anus with the tongue. 

Many may regard this intimate procedure with disdain, considering it as a sin from the height of their stereotypes, or with disgust, considering it unhygienic. One way or another, interest in this form of sex is obvious, because someone once invented ways and techniques of rimming, means of protection specifically for oral sex, and even a kind of instruction – the rules of good rimming.

A bit of etymology

So rimming. What is it? Rimming is a type of oral sex that stimulates the anus. The second name for this practice is anilingus (from the Latin anus – anus + lingo – to lick; synonyms – anilinction, rimming that English rimming.                  

The tongue and lips participate in the intimate process, and if fingers and sex toys are used, then this will already refer to anal, not oral sex. However, the subtleties of categorization are more interesting to sexologists, lovers for the sake of pleasure in their intimate life can do whatever they want without bothering with terms.  

How to do rimming correctly?

There are practically no strict rules in this practice. If there is agreement and security in the relationship, then half the work has already been done, the matter remains for the technique, which is not quite complicated. The simplest and most popular movements:

• Circular. At the same time, the tongue is relaxed, and the speed can vary depending on the preferences of the passive partner / female partner. 
• With the tense tip of the tongue dipping into the hole. Not everyone loves it, so do not forget to discuss this point in advance. If this is your partner’s first experience, then the entry should be as slow and shallow as possible. 
• Movements up and down. This technique is especially gentle when the tongue is relaxed. 
• Kisses.
• Any other movement that your partner / partner likes.

Is rimming safe

Compared to other sexual practices, rimming can be called one of the safest. The main thing to remember: about protection in order to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, both partners must be confident in each other.  

Be sure to use protective equipment. Sex shops sell special latex napkins for anilingus (usually scented, for the greater pleasure of an active partner). If you don’t want to spend money, you can cut a regular condom and unfold it into a rectangle. As a last resort, ordinary cling film will do.

8 rules for good rimming

1. Wash thoroughly

Hygiene is a matter of course for a passive partner. Many are anxious before the first experience and may even give up pleasure, fearing that they are not clean enough. In fact, a regular external wash with soap and water is usually sufficient. But if you have any concerns, you can first make a small enema with warm water or use an anal shower bought in a specialized store.

Important: after the enema, at least 2-3 hours must pass, otherwise an unpleasant embarrassment may occur.

2. Protect yourself

About how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases during rimming has already been said above. But it will not be superfluous to remind: do not neglect hygienic means of protection in this spicy business.

3. Start with a simple doggy style

This is one of the most comfortable positions for both partners. Especially its knee-elbow version, in which it is easier for the passive to relax and focus on your sensations. This is also convenient for the active, since in this position the buttocks least of all interfere with access to the anus.

In this position, you can start by fondling the genitals, and then smoothly rise higher. But not the other way around.

4. Use lubricant

Rimming is the only anal practice in which saliva is sufficient as a lubricant. Lubricants are used in two cases:

• the desire to please an active partner, resorting to flavoring and aromatic additives;
• if rimming is a prelude to further anal sex.

5. Experiment

Anilingus techniques, which were described earlier, can be called basic. They can be varied in different ways.

• First, the techniques can be combined with each other. You can alternate 2-3 of the above, but you can use all of them.
• Secondly, each of them can be used with a different intensity: light and weightless, soft and gentle, or with pressure.
• Third, don’t forget about the pace. Many act on the principle “from slow to fast”, but in fact, in no sexual practice, he is not the main and only one, it all depends solely on the preferences of partners. This also applies to rimming – in it it is quite possible to alternate a slow tempo with a fast one, and then again return to a slow one.
• Fourthly, if the partner / partner does not mind, you can alternate rimming with caressing the anus with fingers and sex toys.

6. Use your hands

Here, too, a lot of opportunities open up. For example, you can stroke and massage your buttocks. Many people are pleased when, in the process, the active partner runs his nails without strong pressure down the back from top to bottom.  

If the passive partner is a man, you can massage his penis or testicles. In addition, many men have a very sensitive perineum – the area between the testicles and the anus, which can also be fondled with your fingers.

Caressing a woman, you can combine rimming with the penetration of fingers or sex attributes into the vagina (if she accepts such a practice). A universal option is rimming in combination with clitoral caresses, fingers or a vibrator.

7. Don’t switch to oral sex

Remember that after anilingus, you cannot switch to oral sex on the genitals. The fact is that the intestinal microflora contains bacteria, which, if they get on the genitals, can lead to irritation and the development of inflammatory diseases, especially in women. There are three ways to avoid this:

• use protective equipment;
• refuse oral sex after anilingus;
• rinse your mouth well with water.

This also applies to any other practices with the anus – nothing that came into contact with it should not immediately come into contact with the genitals.

8. Don’t worry if you don’t like it.

Not self-criticism is a universal rule for all sexual practices. You should not sacralize sex and hang labels on yourself if something is not to your liking.

This does not mean that you are not sexy enough: as in any other activity, in intimate practices there are things that are available and acceptable to you, but there are things that run counter to your ideas about beauty, and this is considered normal, the main thing in love is reciprocity of preferences.

The same goes for your partner. If he or she doesn’t like doing what you ask, don’t push or be offended. It only means that you have a fascinating journey ahead of you in search of something that will please both of you.

As you can see, there is nothing scary and shameful in rimming. If hygienic is observed, anilingus is considered to be the caress of another part of the body. If there is love and trust in a relationship , then this practice will bring partners closer and liberate.